We have been looking recently at topics from Andy Stanley’s book, “When Work and Family Collide”. Stanley points out that we all cheat, and as we strive for balance in our lives, we tend to put more effort and attention into certain things and we invariably cheat on other things. Sadly for most of us, unless we notice a significant problem at home, we are likely to “cheat”, or take for granted, the support of our family so that we can go off and pour ourselves into our work, or our other things.
In reality, many of us fail our family miserably. We abuse their support, and make assumptions that it will simply continue indefinitely, but Stanley points out that there are limits to this support. What starts out as a mental willingness to support us, ends with the physical exhaustion of having to keep things going at home in our absence (pg 39) and suddenly we find ourselves facing a crisis at home.
At the end of the day, we need to ensure that our spouse knows that they are important to us. We need to be careful that we don’t send the wrong message. Consider that when we encounter a problem in our business, we don’t think twice about finding the right book to read to help us. We even go to training seminars so that we can learn how to better navigate future problems in our businesses. If our computer breaks down, we are able to pore through manuals to help us figure out how to fix it. Yet why is it then, that when we recognise there is a problem in our marriage, we do none of these things and instead look blankly at our spouse and say, “What’s wrong??”
This week, find ways to show your spouse how important they are to you. Don’t just buy her flowers, or chocolates! Spend time with her. Take on some extra responsibilities around the house. Find some good marriage resources that you can read together to help strengthen your marriage. In short, put the same effort into your marriage as you do for your business. Stop cheating on your family!